For the lesbian and bisexual female, dating can sometimes prove itself to be a challenge, particularly if you are new to the area of girl/girl dating. The main questions I have heard are, “Do you ask a girl out the same way as you would ask a guy?” “Who pays for the date?” And, “If I am curious and not really ready for everyone else to know about my sexual preference, outside of a bar where do I meet woman that are sober?

If there is a girl you are interested in, take that leap and ask her out. If you do, be prepared to pay for the date. Regardless of if you are a feminine lesbian or completely butch, if you ask her out, treat her special and make that date unforgettable. Do not waste your time asking your straight friends questions on lesbian or bisexual dating because it will only make you more nervous to make that first move. Your unique situation requires people who understand you so build a support group of friends who get it.

My another advice is to keep the first date light. What I mean by that is: ask about things she enjoys like movies, or fashion, or sports. Do not pry too much or ask the deep dark secrets question. Keep it light and simple if you want a second date with this person and always allow room for nature to work her special magic.

My last advice is to enjoy your sexuality and your preference no matter what. People are always going to have an opinion, who cares! Are you happy with who you are? Does the thought of loving another woman make you heart beat?  Then what other people think about your lifestyle won’t matter. Follow your heart and stand firm in full confidence that you are doing what is right for you and your forever will not be far behind.